Many people are judgmental and the greater their feelings of inadequacy, the more they judge others. Insecurity is positively correlated with projecting faults and flaws. When a person feels inherently deficient in some way, the more likely they are to mock and belittle others who have healthier approaches to life or live by a different credo than their own. Understanding the way humans react based on their internal status is helpful; however, it is estimated based on casual surveys that up to 80% of people readily admit to being judgmental of others.

It stands to reason that if a person isn’t comfortable with himself that he finds reason to judge what others are doing and how they live their lives. He has no inner contentment to enjoy, so he focuses his gaze elsewhere. Statistically, it appears the majority of people are not comfortable with who they are. This is different than witnessing other choices and deciding what isn’t good for us, based on all available data. Science is fairly clear on factors underlying good health. I can see that some people consistently make unhealthy choices. However, I don’t judge them for where they are. Everyone is on their own timetable for learning (or not) how to show greater love to self through making healthier choices. I have been at many unhealthy places in the past. I chose to leave them behind.

On the other hand, some make it a sport to be unkind to others with unrelenting criticism and judgement. We see this often in the public political arena, on the daily news, and on networking forums. Criticizing others has become blood-sport, a gladiator ring of mudslinging, psychological violence, and shaming. Many pride themselves on their ability to cut others down to size and admire their own ability to do so with smug satisfaction.

Therefore, when the 80% of people who aren’t happy with themselves are critical, don’t take it to heart. It isn’t necessary to adapt to the judgments of others, rather, release yourself from being affected by their criticism. People criticize Mother Teresa. They bad-mouth the teachings of Jesus. They denounce the non-violent resistance of Gandhi and King. They accuse Buddha of being demonic. If they hold you in negative esteem, know that the most well-meaning people throughout history have been held in poor esteem as well.   

It isn’t that we aren’t without faults. We have them. Yet each person is to be concerned with correcting his own. When we focus our efforts at home, we have little energy left to criticize others. We become better versions of ourselves.